How to Get Your Guy to Commit
“Men are afraid of commitment.”
It’s cliché, really. A generalization and an excuse. Because many, many men are currently in committed relationships.
Let’s get right down to it—you’re here because you want a man to commit to you. And chances are, you deserve the commitment you seek. And so without further ado, let’s jump into your learning….
To begin, most men aren’t afraid to commitment. They merely don’t want to commit.
As stated in the video above, telling a man you want him to commit doesn’t work. Even if a woman’s being 100% rational when presenting her ‘commitment argument’ to a man and fulfills the man’s needs, wants and desires, having the man NOT COMMIT is commonplace.
This is of course, VERY FRUSTRATING for the woman, and rightfully so. So why does a man not commit?
Quite simply, because he doesn’t feel the need to. Perhaps he doesn’t take the woman seriously or he believes there won’t be repercussions—in short he feels nothing will happen (nor change) if he doesn’t commit—the woman won’t go anywhere and therefore why should he commit?
This is how a man thinks. Some men are even waiting until a woman he finds more desirable comes along.
The Mistake
There are several mistakes women make toward men who won’t commit. Here are a few:
–A woman does nothing. Doing NOTHING and HOPING he decides to commit doesn’t get him to commit.
–She does more for the man. This sounds like a good idea—be kinder and more giving to the man—but most guys will further take her for granted as their current behavior (including not committing) is being rewarded.
–Nagging. Whether deserved or not, men don’t respond well to nagging. It annoys us and it causes us to recoil as being nagged is always an unenjoyable experience.
–Taking away sex (or anything else). Let’s agree—a woman doesn’t have to have sex with a man when she doesn’t want to.
However, telling a guy he’s not getting sex (or any other perk for that matter) if he doesn’t commit will backfire royally with a man because you’re taking away an enjoyable aspect of the relationship from him and it gives the man the impression you only have sex with him to reward him which insinuates you don’t enjoy sex with him which is an attack to his ego. Naturally, this will also weaken the bond between the two of you.
The Solution
Yes—fear not—there’s a correct, successful way to get a man to commit and it’s AMAZINGLY effective. My lady clients have done everything from send me gift cards to invite me out to dinner to meet her new fiancé.
And here it is…
…to get a man to commit to you the best thing you can do is put in effort to happily live your life and do what you want to do.
Yes.
It’s that easy.
In the video above, I give the pottery class example; if you want to take a pottery class then sign up for one and do it. Whatever it is that interests you that you haven’t done—start doing it. And yes, if you have the time to take additional classes or to attend other new groups that interest you then do it. FILL YOUR SCHEDULE.
Your rewards will be immense. Aside from meeting new people and learning new things that interest you, you’ll also be telling the universe you’re ready to follow your life’s passion. And the universe will reward you with happiness and a sense of fulfillment.
And don’t feel the least bit guilty you’re spending less time with your man. Because if he doesn’t commit to you then why should you (or would you) commit to him?
Bingo!
And whom should you commit to?
Yourself!
Oh, we’re getting awesome here. I can feel your excitement welling up inside you and I LOVE IT!
When you follow your interests and passions in life you’ll continue to grow. You’re bettering yourself and your life and it’s an awesome thing to both do and experience.
And what happens when you take my teaching and apply it to your life? Well, aside from all the wonderful things it will do TO and FOR you…
One of Three Things Will Happen:
1. The man in your life will see that spark that’s been ignited inside you. He’ll notice you’re happier, growing and DOING YOUR OWN THING WITHOUT HIM. He’ll feel like he’s losing you and he’ll want to commit and will work hard as to reel you in. And when he does this you accept and are now in a committed relationship. Voila!
2. You’ve reconnected with your happiness and perhaps your purpose in life. You’ve become a more dynamic person and have GROWN. You’re more sophisticated as you have a much stronger realization as to what makes you happy and you’re also a more confident woman.
And then it hits you…you’re no longer happy with the relationship you’re in; perhaps it’s because you’re growing and he’s the exact same man. You’ve outgrown him. And settling is something you won’t do and so you break up with him—which only gives you more time to follow your interests and passions in life.
And I can guarantee you this—the next man you enter a relationship with will be a happier, more confident man than the previous guy you dated because you will end up with a man who has the same level of confidence as you and when your confidence grows stronger you attract men who are on that same confidence level.
3. The least common of the three but it does happen: by becoming a more confident woman, you could very well alleviate the problem that’s causing the man to hesitate to commit to you.
In the video above I use the example of being needy or clingy. If a woman is blowing up a guy’s phone and always wants to hang out with him he won’t respect her and therefore won’t commit.
But when a woman finds her passions and leads an interesting, full life and stops being needy and clingy, the man will recognize this change within her and will respect her—and over a period of time (typically a few months) the man will see and feel what he needs to and will be much more open and wanting to commit to this (much more) appealing woman.
In Closing
When you live your life, follow your passions, do what you want to do and put yourself first and not a man first, you will have no problem getting a guy to commit to you.
I hope you find my teaching to be super helpful and you learned a lot from my How to Get a Guy to Commit article and video.
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